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Take Your Life Back, Own It
Take Your Life Back, Own It
New Year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on strictly observing the following promises to themselves:
1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me.
2. I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds.
3. I will not tolerate abuse and aggression in any form or guise. I will seek to terminate such misconduct instantly and unequivocally.
4. I will be assertive and unambiguous about my needs, wishes, and expectations from others. I will not be arrogant - but I will be confident. I will not be selfish and narcissistic - but I will love and care for myself.
5. I will get to know myself better.
6. I will treat others as I want them to treat me. I will try to lead by way of self-example.
7. If I am habitually disrespected, abused, or if my boundaries are ignored and breached I will terminate the relationship with the abuser forthwith. Zero tolerance and no second chance will be my maxims of self-preservation.
What did Life teach me? I am 63 years old and have led the combined lives of 10 people. At least.
I have learned that Life doesn’t always accommodate our plans and wishes — but it always turns out to be far better than our fears.
Trust life, do not fight it. Plan flexibly, execute wisely, retreat smartly, advance promptly, and invariably celebrate all these steps on the path that is your being.
Prof. Sam Vaknin
26 בדצמ׳ 2021
The world you grew up in, no longer exists
"We really grew up in the best era to be a kid and the worst generation to be an adult" - a tweet, which did not specify which era they were talking about, that garnered 250k likes.
Today we're talking about nostalgia, rosy retrospection, and the subjective nature of the human experience.
We're all getting older, which is tough, but it sure beats the alternative.
00:00 Intro
02:25 Act I: The Past
08:08 Act II: The Present
16:03 Act III: The Future
21:19 Act IV: The End Is Here
Paul Platt
24 ביולי 2025
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